oh my god, does this ever describe my life right now.
Not just for moms…
Thank you for posting this.
How recognizable! Thank you for sharing, Keri.
I opened your site immediately today b/c of the title of your post in my blog feed (I’m a mom) … and how exciting to see a familiar face when I did. Virtual worlds colliding right here in my living room … love it. I know 2 of the women featured in this film — it’s been years in the making and promises to be great.
I don’t think the movie is just for moms, either … but it sure hits home if you are one!
Love your work, Keri!
Lots and lots of things to think about after having watched this. One thing I loved about it was how one person talked about all the trying everyday circumstances that comes up and how you believe it needs fixing (or you need fixing) – “This is not who I was supposed to be!” – and how music and making art actually fixes it. My shoulders sort of immediately relaxed when I heard that. What’s really remarkable about that though, is that you’re actually not fixing anything. What you do is you find a way to be with it, to express your feelings and not cling to how things turn out. You actually stop trying to fix it. And that’s what feels good. At least it seems to be that way for me. A great things to think about.
Thanks for posting this!
Great video. I can relate to a lot of it… But as well as an “interferer” my daughter also is my biggest fan. She believes in me when I don’t and when I feel the world is not waiting for the things I make, she lifts my spirits by giving me the right feed back. To all artist mothers: hang in there! Great stuff waits around the corner!
OMG! You found me and the amazing women in my film. I’m so humbled and grateful to you for posting this. We are so close to being finished with this film – eight years in the making. It is incredibly gratifying to me to know people resonate with this project. THANK YOU!!! I am working on trying to get screenings of the finished film. Any ideas or suggestions are so welcome. Your blog looks great and I can’t wait to explore it.
Keri THANK YOU for posting this. I have a five month old baby and have recently felt my ‘self’ fading away, especially with less time or energy to be as creative as I was. To hear other Mums talking honestly about how children impact on your life as an artist/ creative is refreshing and reassuring. Thank you again, I’m beginning to feel slightly more sane!
Thank you so much for sharing this clip. I was literally moved to tears by it. For over 10 years now, I have struggled with this double blessing of motherhood and being an artist. So often I have wondered… what is wrong with me? Why do I feel like I am in a bumper car and can’t get out of the rink? Seeing other women speaking my thoughts is so encouraging and uplifting. Not that I am happy to see other people struggle, but I just don’t feel so alone! I really needed this today!
Thank you so much Keri for sharing this movie. I am the woman at the very beginning talking about being stuck in 2nd gear. I am happy to report that I am now back on the highway, going 80 miles an hour and more worried about getting a speeding ticket than being forced to stay on side streets. I am excited to have been turned on to your blog (by Andrea up above). Everything I have read so far really resonates with me. Lovely kismet. Thank you again.
I’m a working single mom and I know 2 of the lovely, talented women featuerd in the film. I am very much looking forward to seeing it! Thanks for posting and getting the word out. Gotta run. I just heard the 5-year-0ld waking up the 1-year-old by saying “You can jump from the bed. It’s fun!”
weeping. Was doing ok until that holding down the tent analogy …
Because I feel like i have let go of the tent. Of course, my chidren are older. The youngest turns thirteen tomorrow. But I let go of the tent five or six years ago. I deal with incredible guilt that the younger ones don’t get as much from me as the older ones did, that I am not as connected, that my house is a messy, that the meals aren’t as good and healthy, that my husband has to do the laundry because I can’t even think about it, that there is a basket of unmatched socks that they have to dig through because I can’t be bothered with that now.
But I don’t feel like multiple personalities living in one body anymore. I am more patient. I am less angry. I am more compassionate and I listen more … to myself and to them.
Art has been slow in showing up in my life. Six years in the making and I am finally realizing that I cannot live without creating something. It feels like i turned my back on my family to discover that. Now I feel like I am realizing that they can be a part of that. It doesn’t have to be compartmentalized.
Before my life was practical and funtional … but not creative in the way I wanted it to be. It was creative survival mode. I felt like I was barely alive, shallow breath. Now I am in the process of integrating it all. My home is beginning to reflect who I am on the inside, what I feel and see.
Love this project. Gonna spread the word and support it.
So inspiring; marvellous post. Thank you
moving and feels so true; i’m looking forward to seeing this. i did learn to work in the short bursts of available time, but now–although my child is grown up–i have trouble getting lost in my work. i’m sure the fragments will coalesce eventually, but it’s taking a while. thank you for posting this, keri.
Thank you. This touched and moved me.
This tiny glimpse, ten minutes long, moved me to tears this morning. Seeing you young moms starting out on this balancing game of children, love, work, and yes laundry. My babies are now 17 and 15 years old, I am still trying to hold on to the tent- (even though they may not need me to do that anymore).
I so miss my best friend, we are separated my states now, but I love our time together that we make happen despite the distance and kids. In the meantime, I am trying to be in my studio everyday, it makes me feel whole.
I was moved to tears, also–the kind of tears that only deep recognition can bring. I have teens that are transitioning to being independent… but I’m still “holding down the tent”, and dealing with the fact that an art career (or life for that matter) on the other side of children does not look the same as an art career as a young person. Still, I kept painting through it all, and it saved me. So many, many things expressed in this film clip that we, as creative women, need to say and hear! Can’t wait to see the film. Thanks for posting this.
yes. yes. yes.
a conversation I have been having again and again and again in my head and on pages and through pictures and dances and with fellow artists and mothers for ten years now. giddy to see it here. so good I wanted to kiss the screen.
What a refreshingly honest look at the reality of kids and/vs passions. I wish it had been out when mine were little. It would have been reassuring to know that i wasnt the only one struggling. Though it was during those “hold the tent down” years that I really turned to creativity to help find myself under all those days of repetition. And thank god for it. It guided me to healing, to best friends, and to work that is transformative and fulfilling. We can’t put our lives on hold while we wait for our kids to grow. There is room for both.
What a beautiful little movie on…. mothers…. and art…yes….but to me it is also and mostly on friendship. What a gift to have a friend that close, that “impact your life”, those women here are very generous….may be to be more of an “artist” one has to be more selfish…then not as interesting as those women here. It is a very very interesting movie, thank you very much.
I’m a teacher and what I can say is that mothers should really include their children in their desire to create! The school curriculum that we work with these days is so full and the amount of creativity children get to expend is so limited. In the home, television, video and computer games inhibit the use of creativity and therefore it is so beneficial when parents spend that time with their children. Valuable time that is shared and is used to help children express themselves.
Such relief is washing over me right now as I realize, I am not alone. I knew that intellectually but emotionally, this trailer just drove it home. THANK YOU, Keri, for posting this, and thank you to the filmmakers and to the women who opened themselves up on camera so honestly. We need a website just for artist-moms. This sense of community is a powerful balm. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for putting this up!! It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who feels like that. Thank you sooo very much!!