A recent email from a reader caused me to dig out this essay. I provide the links to each section in case you missed it the first time. Sometime in the future I would like to write more on this. I have learned that there are many people who might be in a similar situation to what I went through right now. Sometimes it helps to know that we are all more similar than we know.
(the previous links to the Penguin site are no longer working so I created a pdf for you)