August 23, 2005
a conversation with my future self.


If you've ever made a huge change in your life you might relate to the feeling of spinning, the whirling excitement, the nervousness, the not knowing, feet not touching the earth, the temporary lack of grounding, the building tension that exists right before you leap. I am down to my last few days here, the time before making the leap. My walk in the woods today was completely breathtaking, the changing light bringing the feeling of fall, the air a bit cooler than it has been. I cling to the safety of it as I sit on the soft bank, looking out over the water at the tall pines. I notice the water reflected on an overhanging branch.

And as I sit I have a kind of revelation, a simple thought that breaks through the tension. It is the understanding that if I cling to these woods, to this experience, (to my comfort) then I am not opening myself up to new experiences. different forests. different people. new ideas. growth. Even Thoreau spent a limited time cut off from the rest of the world on Walden pond. I smile as I think of myself a year from now having had many adventures, able to look back at things and know that everything was o.k. That all the fretting and fear of change was unnecessary.

How I wish I could have a conversation with that future self. That person would take me by the hand and say, "everything is as it should be. you can breathe, and be kind to yourself, and know that you are safe everywhere. no person or path can take from you the things that are important. your love of life, your creativity, your courage, your strength are with you always. even when you doubt them."

I wrote to a friend recently... "the alternative is that we sit on the couch from here on in with the remote, eating chips, brushing the crumbs out of our cleavage, not giving ourselves new experiences, letting other's tell us which products will give us meaning and what we need live a fulfilled life."

there is no choice here. either we change, or we wither.

Posted by kerismith at August 23, 2005 08:03 PM
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Very nice site!

Posted by: Donny on September 16, 2005 04:53 AM

a conversation with my future self rulezz! =)

Posted by: black and white on September 6, 2005 05:15 AM

Your words have been one of the most helpful ones since i found your writings!
I am living a time when i would need a huge change. But the change does not come. I want to trust that it will come when it is meant to be... But still i get this flashes, the feelings " will i have a future".

Posted by: Delila on September 5, 2005 09:51 AM

your words have resonated in me. change must happen - but what is important to us can never be lost. hope to meet you soon.

Posted by: Lori (Brian's mistress) on September 2, 2005 10:14 PM

So true, Keri! Words I really needed to hear. I wish you luck (and happy surprises). May you flourish abundantly in your new home!

Posted by: Julie on September 1, 2005 03:45 PM

Anyone who cares about the people of New Orleans, especially our fellow citizens who were too impoverished or too old  or to sick  to afford an evacuation before the storm, should read this article and forward it/contact your local representatives and demand an explanation and accountability.

 

(To read the whole story after the excerpts below from the emergency management chief in NO, follow the link at the end. It is written by a senior staff writer at the Philadelphia Daily News.)

 

On June 8, 2004, Walter Maestri, emergency management chief for Jefferson Parish, Louisiana; told the Times-Picayune: "It appears that the money has been moved in the president's budget to handle homeland security and the war in Iraq, and I suppose that's the price we pay. Nobody locally is happy that the levees can't be finished, and we are doing everything we can to make the case that this is a security issue for us."

Also that June, with the 2004 hurricane season starting, the Corps' project manager Al Naomi went before a local agency, the East Jefferson Levee Authority, and essentially begged for $2 million for urgent work that Washington was now unable to pay for. From the June 18, 2004 Times-Picayune:

"The system is in great shape, but the levees are sinking. Everything is sinking, and if we don't get the money fast enough to raise them, then we can't stay ahead of the settlement," he said. "The problem that we have isn't that the levee is low, but that the federal funds have dried up so that we can't raise them." The levee board noted in October 2004 that the feds were also now not paying for a hoped-for $15 million project to better shore up the banks of Lake Pontchartrain.

The 2004 hurricane season was the worst in decades. In spite of that, the Bush administration came back this spring with the steepest reduction in hurricane and flood-control funding for New Orleans in history. Because of the proposed cuts, the Corps office there imposed a hiring freeze. Officials said that money targeted for the SELA project -- $10.4 million, down from $36.5 million -- was not enough to start any new jobs.

There was, at the same time, a growing recognition that more research was needed to see what New Orleans must do to protect itself from a Category 4 or 5 hurricane. But once again, the money was not there. As the Times-Picayune reported last Sept. 22:

The Newhouse News Service article published Tuesday night observed, "The Louisiana congressional delegation urged Congress earlier this year to dedicate a stream of federal money to Louisiana's coast, only to be opposed by the White House. ... In its budget, the Bush administration proposed a significant reduction in funding for southeast Louisiana's chief hurricane protection project. Bush proposed $10.4 million, a sixth of what local New Orleans officials say they need."

Local officials are now saying, the article reported, that had Washington heeded their warnings about the dire need for hurricane protection, including building up levees and repairing barrier islands, "the damage might not have been nearly as bad as it turned out to be."

 

To read story in its entirety, go to http://www.mediainfo.com/eandp/news/article_display.jsp?vnu_content_id=1001051313

Will Bunch (letters@editorandpublisher.com) is senior writer at the Philadelphia Daily News. Much of this article also appears on his blog at that newspaper, Attytood.

 

Posted by: Mick on September 1, 2005 10:03 AM

i am 10 days away from moving away from dear friends and family to pursue my dreams and your words in this entry ring particularly true at this moment. i've had to sit back and examine where i am at this moment, and i realize that part of me (as with most people, i guess) desires to cling to the familiar, and not to move outside of my realm of comfort. your words remind me that throwing myself into the unknown is a wonderful opportunity for growth, and to be able to truly test my strength. there are parts of myself i have yet to explore, parts of me that i frequently doubt, and this move give me an opportunity to cement my faith in myself. thanks for the reminder :) the best in your transition, newness awaits you! (ps-thanks for sharing your recommendation of sark's books...her books are a light.)

Posted by: allison on August 30, 2005 04:31 PM

wishing you the very best with your big leap. You are inspiring, especially as I am leaping to Canada myself next year. Thank you for your bravery and words.

Posted by: Marieke on August 30, 2005 05:09 AM

Wishing all the best as you make the big leap! I find you and your words very inspiring. Thank you

Posted by: Rachael on August 28, 2005 01:05 PM

Walk up to the edge
Close your eyes
Spread your wings
And jump!

Posted by: kristy on August 28, 2005 10:55 AM

Hallo Keri
I really regret moving into the area as you leave it. I appreciated this entry and the others I've read since coming lately to your blog. No one can ever tell you you aren't living with your eyes open!
Very best wishes. Lunch before you go? Sunday?
L

Posted by: lia on August 26, 2005 10:49 PM

not impossible to consume a sandwich without chips, only infinitely less enjoyable. your courage has wings keri...open them. and take a nap dammit.

Posted by: jeff pitcher on August 26, 2005 02:59 PM

i had talked to hubby for my other site http://www.discoveringartists.com and i know he said he had left already. i'm glad you're enjoying your last few days. yes, a lot of change.

Posted by: k on August 25, 2005 08:21 PM

Hi Keri..thsi is the first itme iahve visited yoru blog..it is equllay as intersting and inspiring as your husband's who i initially came across. I agree with what you say that we should make life happen and jsut enjoys the day as it arises, not sit there like TV slobs beign spoon fed by the mass media and popular culture - that says - buy this, watch that..., i rarely watch TV ( six feet under - exempt from this - i love it) and feel sorry for those sometimes who rely on it so much as a source of conversation and almost a way of life. Your art work is great, have you ever heard of Alfreda Benge..an artist, she designs the sleeves for her husband's albums..Robert Wyatt, another interesting artistic couple i must admit.

Posted by: venus on August 25, 2005 05:47 PM

For "Captain" Keri :)

"Why are we Masters of our Fate, the captains of our souls? Because we have the power to control our thoughts, our attitudes. That is why many people live in the withering negative world. That is why many people live in the Positive Faith world."

Posted by: D. on August 25, 2005 04:05 PM

Keri:

I don't have cleavage either. Truth is that all the men in my family are flat-chested. It's disappointing.

We're looking forward to seeing you, Macie & I.

Sending love & happy travels,

CK

P.S. Chips are god's way of saying: "Eat!"

Posted by: Christian Kiefer on August 25, 2005 12:26 PM

This post moved me today. I am going through big life changes these days, I can completely relate. Breathe. Whew. That feels good.

I can't believe I am losing a fellow Albertan illustrator. I wish you all the best with your move, Keri!

Posted by: Amanda Woodward on August 25, 2005 03:16 AM

din't = don't, sorry.

Posted by: eliane on August 24, 2005 07:57 PM

Canada is the fifth country I live in. Whenever I move to a new country, I think about the good friends I have there. The only thing about them is that they din't know me yet.

Posted by: eliane on August 24, 2005 07:57 PM

Change is hard, but it's beautiful too. It's a cycle. Enjoy it.

Posted by: Dillygirl on August 24, 2005 04:32 PM

Hello Keri,

While I am, too, in the final stages of packing up my life in the UK (and leaving everything behind that has been my "home" and my comfortzone) to move to the US next month, I am very grateful for your words. Where I fail to express what's going on in my mind and heart I can always turn to your wonderful jar of wishes for a dash of encouragement and empathy.

Thanks. Kerstin

Posted by: Kerstin on August 24, 2005 02:51 PM

hi keri,
i was reminded of this poem by Robert Frost that is sad but also wise...
jessica

Reluctance

Out through the fields and the woods
And over the walls I have wended;
I have climbed the hills of view
And looked at the world, and descended;
I have come by the highway home,
And lo, it is ended.

The leaves are all dead on the ground,
Save those that the oak is keeping
To ravel them one by one
And let them go scraping and creeping
Out over the crusted snow,
When others are sleeping.

And the dead leaves lie huddled and still,
No longer blown hither and thither;
The last long aster is gone;
The flowers of the witch-hazel wither;
The heart is still aching to seek,
But the feet question 'Whither?'

Ah, when to the heart of man
Was it ever less than a treason
To go with the drift of things,
To yield with a grace to reason,
And bow and accept the end
Of a love or a season?

Posted by: jessica on August 24, 2005 12:32 PM

Again to the old addage, it's the journey not the destination. Change is inevitable and be it good or bad we are better for it. I've recently been learning these lessons and suddenly (or slowly over the past 15 years, depending on how you look at it) I'm not afraid.

Posted by: Elle on August 24, 2005 12:03 PM

chips are a very important part of a well balanced american diet. to eat a sandwich without one would be about as satisfying as fries with no catsup. ah cleavage. cheers to those who have some as well as those who don't. i must say since i've recently come into a bit, sleeping is more of a challenge. heavy boobies!
you are so right, there is no choice but to open and unfold. you can do it!

Posted by: pixie on August 24, 2005 11:59 AM

I am going through this right now and your words are so helpful. You are amazing! Thanks for inspiring. Good luck!

Posted by: kyra on August 24, 2005 11:08 AM

Your future self is so right! And so courageous! Good luck to you with the move...I'm looking forward to hearing of your adventures!

Posted by: penelope on August 24, 2005 10:39 AM

the clevage was a great image -- and trust me, so very accurate. brownie crumbs land there, too, in those times of sad, remote-wielding vegetation in front of commericals and daytime tv.

keri, you are a joy!!!
thank you for being a constant inspiration, for sharing your thoughts and life with us, and for being so honest (both with yourself & all of us).

Posted by: slierk on August 24, 2005 09:55 AM

amen.

Posted by: slierk on August 24, 2005 09:53 AM

How nice to read an entry on change. I have been thinking of this very thing quite a bit lately. In particular a quote from another site that says "change is not something you do, it's something you allow." I think it's both really.

Posted by: Michelle on August 24, 2005 09:50 AM

There is a new peace in your words...it sounds as though the process of letting go of your current setting, your present home, is nearing the end. I can relate to your words and your struggle with such an enourmous change...and you are so right about letting go, that you will then immediately open yourself up to new things. new creative inspirations. new people. I am looking forward to reading your work in the future, and seeing those changes in your writing. Blessings to you...

Posted by: tracy on August 24, 2005 08:53 AM

This brings to mind an old Calvin and Hobbes cartoon, where Calvin is debating whether to stay inside and watch people on TV pretending to have fun and adventures, or to go outside and actually do stuff. Virtual life vs. real life. I always think of that cartoon when the thought of new things gets a little scary.

Posted by: Ellen on August 24, 2005 08:52 AM

Sounds like an email to futureme.org might be in order before you board the plane... :)

Posted by: Marilyn on August 24, 2005 08:27 AM

this is exactly the kind of enty i needed. thank you :)
my boyfriend and i are comtempleting moving to another city, and while we know it's the right choice, it's a little sad and very scary. when i get home today, i am going to read this to him.

Posted by: lucy on August 24, 2005 08:04 AM

Oh how lovely the change in the seasons mirrors the change in your life...it sounds so, so lovely where you live but then there is loveliness everywhere and part of life is surely to sample some of it..go and have an adventure!

Michal

Posted by: Michal on August 24, 2005 05:17 AM

Yes, I was going to say that I thoroughly enjoyed the line "brushing the crumbs out of our cleavage". I'll be thinking about that, the next time it happens. But not with chips. They make me fat.

I wish you all the best in your new adventure.

Posted by: patricia on August 24, 2005 05:12 AM

keri~
recently pondering some big changes myself, i found myself admitting the other day that i am horrible at the "middle" part of life. the part when you have disassociated yourself from one place but not quite arrived at the next... your post today helped me relook at that awful spinning seasick feeling and embrace the excitement.
thank you
~dps

Posted by: danielle on August 23, 2005 11:32 PM

if change comes beckoning, as mere mortals does any of us truly have the power to deny it its wondrous magic? can we truly turn our face away from what is to happen and not give intot eh rolling waves of newness that envelop us every now and then...either we give in with a sense of power or we dont... but it will still happen.

Posted by: jammie on August 23, 2005 11:17 PM

Thank you! Your words are exactly what I needed, as I am facing a change of venue as well. Let us not forget that fresh starts can be oh so inspiring.

Posted by: Shari on August 23, 2005 11:15 PM

"everything is as it should be. you can breathe, and be kind to yourself, and know that you are safe everywhere. no person or path can take from you the things that are important. your love of life, your creativity, your courage, your strength are with you always. even when you doubt them."

Keri...reading your words reflected me to Glinda, the good witch of the North in 'The Wizard of Oz" as she tells Dorothy who wants to go back home....'You've always had the power to go back to Kansas.' Dorothy replies, "I have?" To which the scarecrow says, "Then why didn't you tell her?" Glinda softly smiles and says..."Because she wouldn't have believed me. She had to learn it for herself."

Here is to all of the lessons that we learn for ourselves. : )

Posted by: Velvet Brick on August 23, 2005 10:38 PM

Hello my friend...Your entry made me teary. Not only are you now called upon to release the life you created like a just-born butterfly, but you yourself are about to flutter away with new wings. May the breezes that carry you be gentle and warm.

Posted by: Swirly on August 23, 2005 10:05 PM

That is so true - " either we change, or we wither"
How I long for peace in the midst of uncertainty and at the same time the ability to keep moving forward, taking risks...
Although a couch and a bag of chips sounds appealing as well !

Posted by: kristine on August 23, 2005 09:56 PM

confession: I don't have any cleavage but I thought it was a good image.

Posted by: keri Smith on August 23, 2005 08:29 PM

I am quite a fan of chips I must admit.

my apologies to chips and chip lovers everywhere.

and to my husband who finds it impossible to consume a sandwich without them.

Posted by: keri Smith on August 23, 2005 08:25 PM

i think you are being a little hard on "chips", they are wonderfully delicious, are they not...?
seriously, change is hard and it sounds like you are doing well
best wishes for your new adventure!
keep us posted,

Posted by: Kim on August 23, 2005 08:23 PM
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