
some things i am learning while plodding through this life...
-that what i had interpreted as extreme independence is actually a fear of commitment (re: safety mechanism)
-that love is not something we create but something we access, it is always there whenever we need it
-that a large part of experiencing love is allowing yourself to receive it
-that fear is a constant companion with us on all of our adventures
-that i am not responsible for other people's emotions (ooh that's a hard one, ongoing yes.)
-that life (and relationships) shrink and expand in proportion to what we are willing to give to them/it
-that being gentle with oneself is much harder than it sounds
-that it is o.k. for people to be upset
-that there are no such things as mistakes
-that 'not taking yourself too seriously' is about surrendering to your true self and losing the mask
-that one will be regularly required to leap, jump, throw, spin, hurl, fall, run, scream, plummet, etc. in order to learn what trust really means
-that being honest sometimes requires getting dirty, one must be willing to play in the mud without worrying about their clothes. SAY YES TO MUD!
-that in order to feel successful you must stop and acknowledge your successes
-that music and dancing ALWAYS help
-that I am whole and complete right were I am now, wholeness is not some destination I will only visit in the future when i achieve ______?
-that I don't know much of anything
-that when things get really bad, it can only help to dress like a pirate
Posted by kerismith at April 27, 2004 09:19 AM
I'm refraining from telling all of my great pirate jokes.
In the meantime, Thanks Keri. Your words always tickle the right spot in my psyche.
Posted by: kelly on June 8, 2004 09:35 AMThis post resounds loud and clear to me, makes me evaluate my relationships, friendships and life in general.
Thank you.
The first time I read this I had to close the browser and go do something else; I suppose if I am honest I still care very much for someone who was in my life and learning to let go of that and realize that it's done has been so hard. My heart has felt rusted shut for so many months now that it has started to feel like a permanent condition. Like a clamshell, I open a little bit and snap back shut. But I guess all that's important is that at least I tried to open.
Your words remind me of why it's important to try, try again. Thank you.
xo,
Kate
I was pushed here by Wendy at "allseasons", she was right YOU are quite a find. Your post speak volumes and straight to my heart. I am learning the exact same things. Thank-you for sharing and putting them down for all of us out there. Beautifully written.
Posted by: Sallie on April 28, 2004 10:22 PMnot being responsible for other peoples emotions is the hardest thing in the world! That is an ongoing struggle for me too.
hope you are well
r
I happen to think that singing current musical hits in opera makes you a well rounded individual...la la laaaaaaaaaaaaaa!
Posted by: Lu on April 28, 2004 08:44 AMI personally love mud.
Posted by: penelope on April 27, 2004 07:45 PMohh thank you - that's a list like i'm keeping it in my mind...i should start writing lists instead of just thinking them.
Posted by: mademoiselle a. on April 27, 2004 06:38 PMoh . . . just lovely . . . I can't wait for a chance to surrender to a great mud puddle . . . and I am even now thinking of things that i can use for my pirates outfit! many hugs to you for being so freakin fabulous . . . :) Katherine
Posted by: Katherine on April 27, 2004 03:10 PMhttp://www.826valencia.org/store/
Posted by: san francisco pirate shop on April 27, 2004 02:36 PMbeing human is all about contradiction.
the two things walk together like young naive lovers on a first date.
(i'm not really sure what that means but I thought it sounded almost poetic.)
Keri,
You echo my thoughts. You are a wonderful human being. We need more like you.
Posted by: ajduric@sympatico.ca on April 27, 2004 02:11 PMLove your list...and as usual..there is something to remind all of us that life can be better and it is our choice to make it so. We choose the ship we are the chief piriate on!
Bev
Great post :)
Posted by: Nadine on April 27, 2004 12:40 PMMuddy pirates are sexy... ;)
Thanks for the lovely tidbits of wisdom...they are delicious and true.
Your fellow plodding pirate,
-Donavan
PS- It can also only help to wear...
1. A cape
2. A silly hat
3. A buddha smile
YES!
Posted by: Donavan Freberg on April 27, 2004 12:30 PMthese things ring so true, i think i'll need to print them out. the first line; about independence vs fear of commitment, it is especially true. i think a lot of people confuse them. i do. or did? no, i still do. thank you for your words of wisdom.
Posted by: josie on April 27, 2004 12:30 PMHar. Thank ye for that.
Posted by: Di on April 27, 2004 11:51 AMWhy save dressing up like a pirate for when it gets really bad? And what's intrinsically absurd about dressing like a pirate, anyway? Worked for pirates for hunners o' years. And plus, it's a great opportunity to keep a parrot- a pet , who , like a tortoise, will if cared for, probably outlive you. Especially if you end up at the next assizes. Yarrrr. Memento mori on your shoulder and all that.
Posted by: Andrew on April 27, 2004 11:42 AMAhhh Keri, you have reconfirmed for me there is beauty in truth. Thank you for your gift.
You came to me this morning at the exact time of your "mud washes out" post. I had just finished "plod, plod, sploosh", and closed the link via my email and low and behold there you were to greet me. Here's mud in your eye! Oooo, I would love to invite you to Kentucky to make mud pies. Would you like yours with or without chocolate chips? (ahem, pebbles.)
Posted by: Deanna on April 27, 2004 11:00 AMIf you don't mind me saying so; when you make a list like this and include not taking yourself too seriously, that sounds a little bit like a contradictio in terminis...
Posted by: eliane on April 27, 2004 10:49 AMThank you. I really needed that!
Posted by: Pinky on April 27, 2004 10:46 AMWow. I'm off to dress like a pirate . . .
Thank you for this great post.
Posted by: Janet on April 27, 2004 10:45 AM